You know this one well, don’t you? How easy it is to feel hurt by someone’s judgement of you. Those tentacles of approval-seeking extend into some awfully dark corners. Bam! Your self-worth takes a hit. Here is what happens. When you measure your own value against a set of expectations of how you think you should act, your success by the money that you earn, the acclaim that you gather, or the way that others view you, your very foundation is shaky. Your self-esteem, your feeling of worthiness, is “other-dependent”. And that is indeed, a painful way to live. Think about it. What is the measure of your own value? Do you calculate your worth by how others respond to you? Do you weigh your actions, thoughts and feelings, determining your self-worth by the summation? Notice if you look at the actions of others to measure your worth, comparing yourself to what you see.