Essence is defined as the core, nature or most important qualities of a person or thing. Essence is a real and physical aspect of the “ousia” (true being, substance or nature).
Reflecting on the past, I can see how much my communications have changed. As a teen and into early adulthood I used to tell my parents what I thought they wanted to hear. It became my pattern of communicating which masked the truth for both of us. It distanced me from myself and created a sense of loss. My life was a mystery and the appearance was that everything was OK. I had separated from myself and my thoughts because I was more anxious to please my parents.
Living life from this pattern made my life frustrating because I was operating from the outside-in rather than the inside-out. Life was confusing because the opinions of others were more important than my own thoughts. I concentrated on straightening out the life others expected and ignored my feeling world. I was not clear on who I was, what I wanted and how to make myself happy!
My mind was full of chatter, mostly self-critical useless stories that kept me distracted. I was focused on pleasing others with words and conversation that distanced me from my own fears, opinions and desires. In my late 20’s I decided to work on quieting my mind so that I could begin to differentiate the chatter from my true thoughts. Moving into my early 30’s two questions occupied my mind. The first was, what is truth?; the second, what is love? The quest for understanding and discernment separated the distance I had created and unearthed a direct communication. I focused on becoming conscious of my thoughts and actions.
The more aligned I became with myself, the more insights I received. I learned the difference between a mental world and my feeling world. The intimate relationship with myself had emerged. A chemical reaction occurred within me. I could feel truth. Untruth felt different than truth. I could feel words moving through me which were solid and direct! My words had a feeling of alliance and clarity. Pictures formed in my mind giving me fresh insights and direction on life’s next steps. Day to day life became clearer. Sometimes now I find I am amazed at what comes out of my mouth!
What have you noticed about your communications and their clarity? How do you feel when your communications are aligned with your core being? Can you communicate from your essence?