You’ve just settled into your seat to listen to the speaker at your conference. Pretty soon you are starting to squirm, not sure if they are trying to sell you something. Or to convince you. You feel attracted, almost enough to take out your credit card. People around you seem enthused, aroused by the energy coming from the speaker.
Break time arrives. You leave the room feeling your body revved. But as you walk down the hall, you notice that you don’t feel uplifted. Inspired.
What’s happening? The speaker certainly had tons of charisma. Look at how the crowd was stirred up!
Charisma: charm, personality, appeal, magnetism, allure, attractiveness, captivation
Essence: spirit, core, heart, soul, quintessence, substance, lifeblood, fundamental nature
Charisma, Emotion and Agenda
People use their charisma to deliver their agenda. Charisma is an aspect of the personality. You can recognize this as you listen to any speaker who wishes to persuade you of something, just likethe one at your conference. There is an emotional “attractor” at work to convince you of their message.
Charisma has the ability to arouse and to motivate. But without a connection to essence, it does not have the power to transform.
When you speak from your essence, you have a substance that nourishes the listener by the very absence of agenda. It is the difference between being and convincing.
When you listen to others, are you aware of the difference between charisma and essence? Notice how your body feels. Do you respond differently to charisma and to essence? What is the impact? As you become aware of your own responses, you build your ability to discern the difference between charisma and essence.
Here is why this is important.
Your Essential Voice
You have an essential voice. It is an expression of who you are in the core of your being.
Do you know how to recognize it? And then to allow it to express?
As you develop a connection with your inner life force, you come to trust your own communication as being connected with your heart. It’s that part of you that is your deepest, truest self.
Your “essential voice”—the expression that is aligned with the core of who you are—has an impact that extends beyond the moment. It has the power to transform both the listener, and the speaker: YOU.
Experiment with letting go of agenda when sharing yourself. Feel the freedom of expression of your own heart.
Feel it in your own body so that it becomes anchored within you.
Your expression will become potent.
Take Time to Reflect
Take a breath. Release it. Take another. Devote some dedicated time of concentration/meditation. It doesn’t need to be hours of quiet, perhaps only 15 minutes. Then allow the question to simmer within you through the weekend. Let responses bubble up into your awareness. Notice new ways of thinking, of images or ideas that arise spontaneously. Pay attention to your dreams. Let it happen. Be aware. See where it leads you next. Let yourself savor this process of receiving from yourself. Don’t judge whatever comes up, just receive it. Make notes.
You may want to share something from this process. Sharing your experience is an important way to anchor an insight in your body. It leads you to deeper insight. It stimulates action. You are invited to use this arena to share what moves you.