Could love be the key to living fully as who you really are? To living life as you dream of it?
We grow up with such a rationed view of ourselves and our possibilities, especially our ability to feel love. Even in the best of life’s circumstances we only discover a fraction of the potential that lies dormant within us.
Any thought of self-doubt, self-criticism or self-denial (I think of them as the Big Bad 3) shrinks this still more.
Passing of the torch
Each generation passes on this limited picture to the next as truth, usually with the best of intentions. My mother gave me countless messages about not getting my hopes up about one thing or another. That if I were allowed to have something “too” special that I wouldn’t have anything to look forward to when I got older—as if the Universe were a limited place that only allowed for a certain amount of “good” things.
Of course, I believed her…and spent the next many years unlearning that!
But how could she teach me something other than what she believed?
What life is supposed to be
Have you had that nagging sense that this isn’t how life is supposed to be? That God didn’t intend for you to feel such fear, such holding back from life? That’s what fed my passion for self-exploration.
How can you teach your children about what is possible if you don’t open yourself first? As you grow up and look more closely at your life, you begin to question the status quo. You read countless books about how to “help” yourself, how to become more of who you truly are.
You may embrace new ideas, but do you really change? Do you feel differently, think differently and act differently?
It is impossible to change how you live and what you do unless you feel something new in your own body. The best ideas in the world fall apart under the crippling glare of your own self-doubt.
At its bottom, self-doubt is the denial of love that is actively available to you.
I’m talking about Self-love, not romantic love, the kind that doesn’t have anything to do with another person. Love that is cell-penetrating, grander, more magnificent than any human could contain or provide.
If your heart is closed down, you aren’t able to receive that Love. You stay with negative patterns, your limiting beliefs or old wounds. That focus keeps alive the negative experiences of your life.
Make space to receive love
Here’s the secret. You can open to something new that is there inside of you and you can let the feeling of THAT flood every cell in your body. You can ask for it and make space to receive it. It takes discipline and courage to do this, to keep your yucky thoughts from holding court in your being.
It also takes surrender. It’s an active and aware way of living.
It’s a choice.
When you are able to experience Love as a physical, tangible feeling in your body, as a vibration in your very core, then an incredible strength takes hold within you.
That is the invitation the Universe is holding out to you. Receive it. Breathe it in.